Holding on To Hope ~ Guest Post by Barbie Swihart

by Joan on January 18, 2012

in Grace Café

Welcome to this week’s Grace Café. I am delighted to have Barbie Swihart from My Freshly Brewed Life provide this week’s post. If you haven’t visited Barbie, be sure to stop by her blog. I promise you will be blessed and encouraged.

A couple of years ago, my family went through a season of intense financial hardship, some of which we are still recovering from today.  My husband, who is in the construction field, was laid off.  We were already a little financially strained, but with the layoff we fell further behind and could not keep up with our mortgage.  To make a long story short, we had to sell our home in order to avoid foreclosure.  I remember praying and holding on to the hope that our house would be saved.  But this wasn’t God’s plan. 

I’ve heard the saying, “The Lord hasn’t brought you this far just to leave you” countless times.  And although I knew the Lord was still with us, in the midst of this heartbreak, I often wondered why He would choose to bring us this far in blessing us with a home, only to have us lose it.  I think I must have asked Him “why” a thousand times.

It’s been over two years now, and although we are still working hard to get back on our feet financially, I can honestly say that my faith has grown leaps and bounds through that season of hardship.  One of the scripture passages that brought me through that season was Psalm 27:14: 

“I am still confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living.”

What do you do when you are forced to give up a good thing? How do you let go of a blessing that you know was from the Lord when you are asked to lay it down?   Often during that season I would shut down emotionally.  The weight of packing up 16 years of memories in a house that we worked hard to make a home, and part of which my husband built with his own hands, was unbearable at times.  I don’t think I felt the full effects of our loss until about a year later.

But I held tightly to His promise.

“Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise.”  (Hebrews 10:23)

And what is God’s promise?  That He would show His goodness in the land of the living.  That if I would put one foot in front of the other and trust Him, that He would prove Himself faithful.  My husband was unemployed for over two years.  It has been an intense season of lack as well learning how to trust.  And God is still good and all of His ways are perfect.  My husband was just rehired by the man who laid him off over two years ago for a 10-12 month project, and we have a lovely home that we are renting.

I look at that saying, “God hasn’t brought you this far just to leave you” in a whole new light today.  It does not mean that nothing that is good in our lives will ever be taken from us.  What it means is that God remains with us, through the good times and the bad.  He will not leave us to walk the journey alone.

Are you walking through a hard season?  Will you choose to live your life to the fullest, no matter what?  I promise you that you will see the goodness of the Lord in your circumstances.  Hold on to hope. It isn’t far behind you.


 

  • http://www.laurarath.blogspot.com Laura Rath

    It can be so hard to hold on to hope when it appears God’s answer is not the one we want to hear. How blessed we are that He doesn’t leave us in our disappointment — He walks with us comforting and guiding us. Thank you Barbie for this heartfelt and honest post!

    In Christ,
    Laura

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Thank you for stopping by to read my friend!

  • http://humbledliving.com/ Sheri @ Humbled Living

    Hi Barbie, I can really relate to this post. We began a tough season about six years ago. To make a long story short we lost 2 homes. One through foreclosure and one through a short sale. My husband also was laid off in 2010, 2 months before our fourth child was born. (All of our children are 6 1/2 years old and younger). But God is so faithful. He never leaves us. But at times we leave Him. We stop trusting and depending on Him for our provision. I know that’s what I did for a little time through this six year financial ordeal. But I think sometimes we hold onto things so tightly and see it as a loss when in reality God is trying to rip it from our hands because He has something better for us. And how can He give it to us if our hands are full. We happily rent now, I am home with my children everyday and we do so much more with our time and resources for God’s kingdom. Keep holding on to His promise!

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Sheri, thank you for sharing your journey with me. I was really blessed and encouraged by it. Yes, God indeed is faithful!

  • Shanda Oakley

    What a great story of God’s faithfulness and in learning to lean on him and keep trusting when things are bad. Thank you for sharing.

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Thank you Shanda for your reading!

  • Hazel Moon

    When I think of Jesus leaving the glories of heaven and coming to this earth to the poorest of poor, I am grateful. Whether it is holding our house lightly with open hands, or our family, we must always place complete trust in the Lord.

  • http://charinabrooks.wordpress.com/ Charina

    Barbie, we are currently in the same situation right now. Hubby laid off for 3 years now and us doing our best to live and pay everything (mortgage, bills etc) with my income. I can’t tell you how many times I cried myself to sleep. I only find peace when I surrended eveything to Him. It is His will not mine, His plans not ours. Trusting deeply…..

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      There are so many walking this journey. Charina, I will be praying for you. God is right beside you on this journey. He will continue to be faithful.

  • http://www.heavenlyglimpses.blogspot.com/2012/01/when-prayer-feels-inadequate.html Theresa

    “It does not mean that nothing that is good in our lives will ever be taken from us. What it means is that God remains with us, through the good times and the bad. He will not leave us to walk the journey alone.” What great perspective, Barbie. Thank you for your encouragement!

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Thank you Theresa!

  • Anonymous

    Barbie, this absolutely brings me to tears. (and I’m a little surprised by that) You know my story is similar in that my husband was laid off 3 yrs ago due to a company closure and he still hasn’t found work. I’ve managed to maintain (for the most part) a positive outlook, trusting God’s plan, and have tried to bring good from it by writing my book (UnEMPLOYED Faith). But as I read about the loss of your home, a painful memory that I must have buried deep, resurfaced. We didn’t lose our house to foreclosure, but we did choose to sell it as a way of reducing our cost of living and because the housing market was so terrible at the time, we had no choice but to do a short sale, so we got nothing out of it other than a nicer looking hit to our credit bureau. I recall the heartache of packing up our home and realizing this was the home where I brought both of my babies home from the hospital to. There were birthday parties, family gatherings, BBQ’s with friends, and this was the first home I had ever owned. It was a new construction home, so we picked out the cupboards and the carpet and the landscaping – all of it. It was ours. Yes, it was just a material thing. But it was built on the foundation of our love as we started our family. And I still remember the tears that rolled down my face as the giant moving truck drove down the street with all our belongings as we said goodbye to that home and moved across country. I know it was best for us and God has proven that to me over and over again the past 3yrs. But wow, this post really struck an emotional chord for me. Thank you for sharing your story. As always, I’m praying for you and your family. (and thanks for the good cry this morning…) :)

    Blessings,
    ~Rosann

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Thank you Rosann. It was truly a painful time in our lives. We are still dealing with financial issues. But through it all, God has proven Himself faithful and I have no doubt He will continue to provide. Am praying for you my friend. I hope to get reading your book soon. I know it will minister to my heart.

  • Alene Snodgrass

    Awesome truth. Sometimes it’s hard to remember it when you are having everything taken away. But in my circumstance, I can say as Barbie — what God took away through a difficult 9 year battle, He restored 20 fold in my marriage, heart, and life! God is so good, if only we stop and remember. Blessings!

    http://positivelyalene.blogspot.com/

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Amen Alene! We must always remember what He’s done in our lives. It gives us hope for the future.

  • http://ourshelteringtree.blogspot.com/ Pamela

    The valley never ends without a change in our hearts. Looking back we see the changes for God. I’ve found God is always good — and never more close than in those difficult times. I love the spirit coming from this post.

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Such truth Pamela. Thank you for reading.

  • Mrs. H.

    The good thing that I had to give up was my first marriage (although by the end it wasn’t good anymore). I struggled for years with the “whys” and “what was the points?” In the earlier days of the marriage we had truly connected intellectually and he knew exactly how to respond to my emotional needs. Unfortunately he became immersed in an addiction (and is still to this day) and it changed everything. We had a child together and as years have passed I can now see the bigger picture very clearly due to the way he barely sees her and doesn’t provide for her. I have since remarried a wonderful husband and father (he raises my daughter and we have two children together).

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Mrs. H, may He continue to surround you with His presence and faithfulness.

  • http://joannempotter.blogspot.com/ JoAnne Potter

    Yes, ma’am…you have hit it. More times than not, the worst of times show themselves to be the best of times.
    Thanks for hosting Grace Cafe.

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Thank you JoAnne!

  • Laurie Collett

    Dear Joan, What a beautiful post! Sometimes God wants us to let go of the blessing we’re clutching so tightly because He wants to give us something even better. Faith, hope and courage do not always come easily, even though I know that He will never leave me or forsake me, and that being in the center of His perfect will for my life is the best place I could possibly be.
    Love in Him,
    Laurie Collett
    http://savedbygracebiblestudy.blogspot.com/

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      You are so right Laurie. I am so thankful for the courage the Lord has given me through this season.

  • http://beckfarfromhome.blogspot.com/ Beck Gambill

    God’s tenderness with his children astounds me. We’ve been through our share of difficulties and like you have always found him faithful, gracious and kind. Thanks for sharing your story with us Barbie!

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Thank you Beck!

  • http://www.sharonsharinggod.blogspot.com/ Sharon

    Barbie, this was unbelievably encouraging! Congrats on the new job, and I pray that God will continue to bring financial stability to your life. But what a powerful lesson you learned in the dry season – I am blessed by your testimony of faith, and by the undiminished faithfulness of God.

    GOD BLESS!

    Thanks, Joan – for sharing a bit of Barbie with us!

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Thank you Sharon. So glad you were blessed and encouraged.

  • http://2sweetthings.blogspot.com Mandy

    Thanks for this encouragement! What I am learning in these seasons is to practice eucharisteo in all things… taking the moments that are hardest and offering up thanksgiving for something in that moment. Something right there in front of me… and my perspective changes. And I can walk out deeper faith in the thing that I’m going through.

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Mandy, that is so true. When we focus giving Him thanks, in all things, it really changes the way we see things that would have otherwise been disappointments.

  • http://www.asimpleprincess.blogspot.com Kerri Smith

    Barbie, Thanks for having the courage to share so authentically…it is a true testiment of your love and faith in our God and such an encouragement to me. Bless you my friend as you continue to trust in Him!

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Thank you Kerri! I appreciate your encouragement!

  • http://www.thebeautyinhisgrip.com/ Joan Davis

    Thanks for sharing your story, Barbie! It is so good to know that our God is with us in the good times and the bad…We can trust Him! We went through something similar, but through it all, God showed His faithfulness and has strengthened us and increased our faith in the process. Blessings to you!

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Thank you Joan! God has never left us, even when we felt alone. I am so thankful for His love that overshadows all the bad in life.

  • Angel B

    Thank you for the link up and the opportunity to hear such an inspiring story! Holding on to hope even in the midst of hard times is a powerful message when you hear it from someone who has lived it.

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Thank you Angel!

  • Wordonwheels

    What a wonderful and inspirational post. Having been through the job loss with my husband, I could relate so well. We didn’t lose our home, but there have been other blessings that I have had to put aside, even recently. This was a great encouragement. I’m glad you had her as a guest, Joan.

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Thank you Wordonwheels. I am grateful the post encouraged you!

  • Iris

    What a powerful post, Barbie. I live in the desert (literally) for the past 20 years, removed from my family and friends. But I know that God has His reasons.

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Iris, thank you for reading and commenting. I pray the Lord surrounds you with His presence!

  • Joybug0056

    Wow how I can relate so deeply with your post. 2006 I lost my job and to this day employment wages have decreased considerably…it was a well paying job, sick leave, PTO, I had been there almost five years, 401K plan, was on one final year to get the 3 week vacation benefit: Excellent insurance, I had chosen houseplans, was looking for a piece of land, almost out of debt, we had the opportunity to invest in other companies through this employer…..what I learned in that trying time was “wilderness miracles”…as the children of Israel, Manna from Heaven, supernatural water from the rock, blessings hidden by their blindness….I strived to not be as they were in the wilderness …. GOD showed himself so real to me in so many areas…finally after the three and half years I went to work ….but all the “best of that employer” has not been restored but the spiritual treasures are joy unspeakably and full of glory …. He is an awesome, amazing God….

    • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

      Thank you for sharing your amazing story with me. It truly blessed me today!

  • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

    Thank you so much Denise. I know that the Lord has used this season to root us deeper in Him!

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