What Ifs

by Joan on January 25, 2012

in Grace Café

For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. (2 Timothy 1:7)

A visit from Therapets helped make John's day a little brighter.

Fears – we all have them in one form or another. Some people are afraid of heights, others are afraid of storms, or various other things. I happen to have an unreasonable fear of spiders (even the non-poisonous ones). Today, however, I am focusing upon the fears I call “what ifs”—those things that cross our minds, but rarely happen.

As many of you know, my husband underwent surgery to remove some polyps in his colon. (I am happy to say the pathology report showed they were completely benign.) The surgeon expected this; however, with his history of cancer we were delighted to learn the good news.

I spent much of last week visiting my husband in the hospital, going each morning before work. However, on Saturday morning, I had to run an errand before visiting and the doctors made their rounds before I arrived.

When I spoke to my husband by phone, he told me one of the doctors said something about his bone marrow not being completely normal. You can imagine that sent up a red flag and I thought of cancer. After my initial worries, I reasoned that they had not done a bone marrow biopsy and if they thought there were any indications of cancer they would have called for an oncology consult. God, he is in your hands. Whatever it is it did not come as a surprise to you. Still, throughout the day, those “what ifs” kept crossing my mind.

You see, the devil likes to prey on our fears. If he can get us to focus on them and not the truth of God’s word, he wins.

God does not give us a spirit of fear. He gave us power, love, and self-control. When Satan comes knocking (and he will), scripture tells us to resist him and he will flee. (James 4:7).

How do we resist him? I believe the best way is to follow Jesus’ example when He was tempted in the wilderness by quoting scripture. Focusing upon God’s word causes our fears, our doubts, our “what ifs” to diminish.

Whatever you are facing, turn to Jesus and His word. There you will find comfort to face every situation in life.

Oh, and the comment about the bone marrow? Because my husband had a bone marrow transplant eighteen years ago, the doctor said the bone marrow never functions at 100%. A chest x-ray showed early signs of possible pneumonia, so they began giving him antibiotics proactively. I’m thankful this is one “what if” that didn’t happen.


 

  • http://www.thebeautyinhisgrip.com/ Joan Davis

    Hi Joan! I’m so glad your husband is recovering well! Yes…fear and “what-ifs”. I know them well! Those thoughts can paralyze us. You are right — focus is the key. When we focus on God, His word and His promises, rather than on the “what-ifs” in life, we are able to rest in Him and peace will settle on our souls. Blessings!

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      I’m reminded of the song, Turn Your Eyes on Jesus, where it says “The things of this world will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace.” Blessings…

  • Shanda Oakley

    After reading this, I will be especially praying for your husband’s health and your faith and lack of fear. It sounds like he has a lot more going on than I had originally gathered. Nothing is worse than fear taking over your being so know you are being lifted up.

  • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

    Thank you, Shanda. He has had a rather extensive medical history (an 18 year cancer survivor). However, we are thankful that he is now in relatively good health (after he recovers from the surgery). We both appreciate the prayers.

  • http://ourshelteringtree.blogspot.com/ Pamela

    Oh, Joan, what a frightening experience — both the polyps and the bone marrow. I’m thankful God can take our fear and give us peace. I’ll be praying for your husband’s health as he recovers.

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Thank you Pamela. We don’t really worry about the cancer returning, but it’s always in the back of our minds. We appreciate the prayers.

  • http://simplystriving.wordpress.com/ Nikki

    What a scary time and yet what a blessed time. Thank you for sharing it with us, Joan. Will continue to pray for your husband and his recovery. All for Him, Nikki

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Thank you, Nikki.

  • http://joannempotter.blogspot.com/ JoAnne Potter

    My husband is a cancer survivor, too, and he never really experienced fear but, like you, I did. As I eventually came to understand, though, God’s promises stand firm, no matter what. He made it clear that He had a future for me, whether Dave lived or died, whether he was well or ill, and I could trust Him with both of our lives, not just Dave’s. Now, as we go back for rechecks, as do you, we pay attention, but I no longer fear. What a difference!

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      JoAnne – John is a two-time cancer survivor and he felt a little fear the second time around, but for the most part he was determined to survive and He put his faith and trust in God. (I’m the worrier). Now I really no longer fear the cancer, but at first I began to let those old fears creap in. However, I choose to trust in God and His word. I know that John (and any of us) will be on this earth according to God’s plan for our lives.

  • http://www.shalom-candles.co.uk Florence Ukpabi

    Dear Joan,

    I am so glad everything has worked out in the end… you are right we all have something that we are afraid of and that is the time when we have to really dig deepest into our faith and God proves faithful in return.

    I also wanted to tell you that I have nominated you for the versatile blogger award and have awarded you with the Blessed Blogger badge – for full details please visit this link:

    http://iamavesselofgod.wordpress.com/2012/01/24/versatile-and-blessed-blogger-awards/

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Thank you so much for thinking of me, Florence. Heading your way right now.

  • http://bluecottonmemory.wordpress.com/2012/01/24/cry-ye-sarahs-unto-the-lord/ Blue Cotton Memory

    I remember with my last pregnancy, taking the 3 hour test where you drink the nasty stuff 3 different times to determine if your sugar level is too high. Between each test, I prayed faith over those results. After the second test, they said they thought I would have to take insulin – but I left and continued speaking faith. I passed the last test – and it ended up they had put the wrong numbers in for the 2nd test – so I didn’t have to take insulin. Speaking God’s promises and not under-cutting them with fear – well, there is amazing Father Power in that! So glad for your family Joan:) So glad you didn’t let fear steal your answered prayers!

  • Renee

    Joan
    God sent me your post here just when I needed it the most. Since having cancer 2 yrs ago I have had a what if….fear of it coming back. Seems like they are always doing tests to rule out cancer. Well just a half hour ago I got a call that I need a second mammogram since some flecks of calcium showed up this year…NOW they are not calling it suspicious or worrysome, but a change..but Satan just grabbed hold with a chuckle as the fear began to rise in me and my focus struggled to stay on GOD and that there are NO surprises with Him…I am in His arms. I prayed that I could go online and be drawn to what I needed to hear from my fellow bloggers…and here it is.
    I am humbled by how much God loves us and provides for our needs. And I am thankful your hubby is doing so well! Praise God!

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Renee – for the first few years after John’s cancer diagnosis, the thought of it returning was in the forefront of my mind. Thankfully, after a few years (and trusting more in God) those fears have diminished. I’m glad my post helped you. It’s easy to say “do not fear” but those fears do creap in from time to time. When we keep trusting in God, they diminish. Blessings…

  • http://upthesunbeam.blogspot.com/ Shaunie Friday

    As a fellow what-iffer, I can totally relate to this post and to the lessons you have so beautifully articulated. YES! To all of it! So happy you got such good news and good care all the way around!

  • Hazel Moon

    I am so happy for you that your husband is getting better. His visiter was so cute too!
    We fret and worry about all the What if’s and we know better yet we do. God is there to take us through even the hard times and He knows our days are safe with him.

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Hazel – yes the little visitors brightened his day. There was also a Golden Retriever and a Jack Russell Terrier. Many blessings…

  • http://charinabrooks.wordpress.com/ Charina

    Joan, our God is a loving God. Just keep the faith….He loves us and He won’t give us anything that we can’t overcome. God Bless you and your husband…

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Charina – that is so right. God will not give us more than we can bear, but He uses our trials to mature our faith.

  • Wordsonsheels

    I’m so thankful with and for you about both the biopsy and the bone marrow. I know fully well the “what if” monster. He dogs me at times, and I have to lean on that passage of scripture.

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Thanks Debbie. John is doing well and on the road to recovery. Blessings.

  • http://thebeautyofsufficientgrace.blogspot.com/ Kerrie

    Dear Joan, Oh, those what if’s can really be crippling!!! I can really relate to what you’ve written here. God bless you and your family.

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Kerrie – they certainly can be if we allow them to control our thoughts. Blessings…

  • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

    Thank you Shaunie. He is recovering nicely and we are so thankful to the Lord.

  • Joybug0056

    Dearest Joan, the what “ifs” are joy and peace robbers…the thief cometh in all kinds of dress before us…and sometimes we recognize the hideous fool and sometimes we do not ..I cannot count the many times my joy and peace were stolen by the “what ifs”….I call them “thought soldiers” of the enemy’s camp…sent out to prepare me for the onslaught of his attack…..so thankful all is going well with John’s recovery! Thank you Lord!

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Joy, I agree, they are peace robbers. Satan certainly likes to attack our mind. Thank you for the warm thoughts regarding John’s recovery. Blessings…

  • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

    Yes, when we focus on God’s promises those fears and what ifs soon diminish. Blessings…

  • http://myfreshlybrewedlife.com/ Barbie

    Oh I dwell on that “what ifs”. They immobilize me through fear and intimidation. I am so thankful that God comes to bring life. The enemy only comes to kill, steal and destroy. I am so thankful all of your husbands tests came back clear! God is good!

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Thank you, Barbie. We are so thankful for the good report.

  • anita johnson

    So glad the recovery is going well. Fear can really take hold…asking God to help me with that this year!

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Thank you, Anita. I’ve had my share of fears (even though the Bible is clear that we are not to fear). I’m also praying that He helps me overcome.

  • http://www.sharonsharinggod.blogspot.com/ Sharon

    I have bought the ticket for the “What If” train more times that I can count. Sometimes it’s a daily commute. It’s such a gripping fear – trying to wrap your mind around the worst-case scenarios in life. Oh, learning how to rest in God’s DAILY bread. Not the past, not the future – just TODAY with Him.

    GOD BLESS!

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Yes, Sharon…just for today. Blessings…

  • Heidi Craig

    Oh wow, what a great post. Yes, I too dwell on the what if’s, and have been known to let fear take over me, completely forgetting about His promises. You are such an inspiration, going through a difficult time with your husband with such grace and love. And so glad to hear he is recovering well. Blessings to you!

    • http://www.reflectionsofhisgrace.com Joan

      Thank you, Heidi. We’ve had many challenges with his health throughout our marriage, but are so thankful to our Jehovah Raphe (The Lord who heals). Blessings…

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